What to and not to say

Here are some things that may be helpful to say to someone who is recently bereaved:

“I’m so sorry for your loss.”

“I’m here for you if you need anything.”

“I can’t imagine what you’re going through, but I’m here to support you.”

“I’m thinking of you and your loved one.”

“You are in my thoughts and prayers.”

“I’ll be here to listen if you ever want to talk.”

“I’m here to help with anything you need.”

Here are some things that may not be helpful to say to someone who is recently bereaved:

“I know how you feel” – unless you have experienced the same loss it is impossible to fully understand the bereaved’s feelings

“He/She is in a better place” – This statement can be dismissive of the person’s feelings

“It’s time to move on” – Grief is a process and takes time, it’s not something that can be rushed

“At least he/she lived a long life” – This statement diminishes the value of the person’s life and the loss

“It’s all for the best” – This statement can be dismissive of the person’s feelings and pain

It’s important to remember that everyone grieves differently, and it’s important to be sensitive to the person’s needs and feelings. It’s better to listen and be there for them, rather than to try to fix their pain or offer unsolicited advice.